A Life, a Body
Last week, I read an interview that Isabella Fiorentino gave to Vogue Brazil sharing her story of how she struggled to accept her body and in dealing with anorexia. These days, reading some comments about the Fashion Week shows, a mother said that her daughter was still working hard to be accepted in the industry, as sometimes people would say she had short shoulders or would rather not fit the standards. I also saw another comment from a girl who gave up modeling life, because she was tired of constantly having to lose weight and that she was much happier now.
Not too different to them, there are other girls who through social medias have reached or still try to reach the acceptance of their body. In Brazil, we have a very famous fitness blogger called Gabriela Pugliesi. She kind of revolutionized the industry and it is impressive the amount of people that came up after her! There were many other girls – and boys – that were inspired to do something for themselves and found their motivation turning their struggle public. Sometimes it seems (to me) that many of the fitness bloggers arose because they needed to motivate people and especially, motivate themselves to achieve their own goals!
Every year there are new outbreaks of famous and anonymous people who come up sharing how much they suffered or still suffer to accept their body. It is a subject that never ceases to be current and instead of finding a way to evolve on it, we still let ourselves be led by the standards that are created. How many times have you not wished to be a Gabriela, Gisele (Bündchen), Isabella or any other person? But have you also put yourself in their shoes to know what has taken them to be what they are? Or to get to where they are?
Daiana Garbin is a Brazilian journalist that left her job to start a Youtube channel. She decided it was time to share her illness (which she has had for almost her entire life) called the body dysmorphic disorder or BDD. She is a beautiful woman and was highly criticized when exposed her problem. And that’s something I do not understand. Why do people judge so much? Who has the right to say that what a person is going through is a fuss? Just because the person is ‘theoretically’ within the standards does not mean that what she sees makes her happy. We should be thankful that there are people who stand up and open subjects to be discussed!
Love your body – Daiana Garbin
As everyone else, I also have things I would like to improve. I do not deprive myself if I feel like eating something, but I try to have a healthy life. It might not be an ideal one, but it’s the best at the moment for me! I’ve always had the ‘yo-yo’ effect. I would always gain weight, then lose weight and repeat! Luckily, I never got to the point of not being able to recover my body.
However, the point is that every human being has a biotype that NEEDS to be respected and exalted. We can’t live wanting to have someone else’s body, otherwise we will never be happy. The metabolism, the thighs, the butt, the hips, all of it will always be different from one individual to another. Inspire yourself in someone is quite different from wanting to be it. Moreover, these ‘perfect’ people that we follow as examples should be to motivate us to find the best in ourselves!
Fashion has been a huge influencer and standard maker for years. Has anyone realized that these standards also change from time to time? And what would be of us if we tried to follow all of them? It is something like: now we have the skinny model, now the one with curves, now with big boobs, now the plus size ones. It is soo many this and that, that I honestly think we should reflect how this can affects us!
You won’t be less pretty only because you don’t have 1.80m to walk down the runway and those clothes don’t fit well on you. What we see on the fashion shows are trends and these have to be adapted to our biotype. Accept that and find what enhances you it’s one of the secrets to happiness.
The perfect body doesn’t exist and neither is one better than the other. Each body is a gift. So let’s work to reach our goals and find what works best for us! Let’s not set unreachable targets that will frustrate us and make us give up half way through. Let’s just become the best version of ourselves.
We need to understand that every human being has it’s own body and each one represents a lifetime. Reflect if you want to waste your energy only on it. Because at the end, our body is what stays. Regardless of whether it had a shaped tummy, a steep boob or a firm butt.
Let’s accept and change our habits. Let’s think about our health before the aesthetic aspect. You think you’re fat and you are really overweight? Then focus on your health that your body will react. You think you’re looking fat and everyone says you’re really going crazy? Then get help. Do not let this become a disorder.
Have you heard people saying that beauty comes from the inside? That’s because it really comes. When we are happy, we shine and this stands out soo much that at the end, it doesn’t matter if we look like a magazine cover! Life is too short to be judged only by how you look. Be how you want to be, but be from the inside out.
Don’t be a frame restrained to others opinions and in search of the supposedly perfect body. We are all perfects for the opportunity of having one and we will always imperfects, because we are humans!
∗ Cover photo of the Dove’s Real Beauty campaign.
Lili is half Peruvian, half Brazilian, a dreamer Pisces kind of girl, curious, life lover and travel addicted! She`s been to 53 countries, loves to explore different cultures and to travel to the most unusual destinations. Currently lives in Finland, is a monthly columnist for the website Brasileiras pelo Mundo (a Brazilian platform of expat women) and founder of Hey, I am Lili. She believes that the most important things in life are to laugh out loud, a good wine and people she loves always around anywhere in this world!