Long Distance Relationship
Today I have a friend collaborating at the portuguese website (that you can read it here) and she is sharing a bit of her experience with a long distance relationship. As it was so personal, I thought it wouldn’t be the same if I translated. So as I’ve been to something similar, I’ll share a bit of my own story with you guys!
When I was 22 and finishing the university, I had a job offer to move to Dubai. It was a job of a dream, that I would be able to travel the world, live in a modern city and earn good money. I got so focus on that, that at first I totally forgot the consequences it would bring me.
My husband by that time was my almost 2 years boyfriend and for my surprise, he was who supported me the most. He knew how big my dream of traveling the world was and moving would help me realize it. I few weeks before my departure, I felt it all! I freaked out and didn’t want to move any more. It was when I realized I could loose him during my time there and it made me almost give up. But I didn’t, because he never allowed me to. I remember he would repeat and repeat to my head that it was my dream and I had to follow it! And that is what I did.
I had a 3 year contract which I completed. There where many moments that I thought I wouldn’t make it, I thought we wouldn’t make it together. But time was quite generous to us and our love was always greater than anything. We had our civil marriage after almost 2 years I was there so he could visit me more often! It was one of our best decisions, because apart that he could go to Dubai, we could still travel together paying low fees at the flights!
Another almost year and half went by and the day came! It was time to go back home! And when I saw him at the airport, there he was.. as anxious as me and standing there for the last hug of a life apart! We had another marriage celebration which we consider as our proper wedding in 2011, same year I returned to Brazil. It was a very emotional and special ceremony as my husband’s granduncle which is a priest came from Holland to marry us and together with his other uncle, we made it a dutch-portuguese language ceremony!
There are so many memories from all these years! So after 2 weddings and almost 11 years together, if you are going throw a similar situation what I can tell you is to stay strong and believe in love! Because if there is love, love will always win!
Lili is half Peruvian, half Brazilian, a dreamer Pisces kind of girl, curious, life lover and travel addicted! She`s been to 53 countries, loves to explore different cultures and to travel to the most unusual destinations. Currently lives in Finland, is a monthly columnist for the website Brasileiras pelo Mundo (a Brazilian platform of expat women) and founder of Hey, I am Lili. She believes that the most important things in life are to laugh out loud, a good wine and people she loves always around anywhere in this world!