Who are we?
Last post of the year!
OMG.. the new year is already around the corner and so many things happened in 2016 that my mind got very confused when writing this last post for you guys! I have so much to be grateful, but so many thing to reflect and to improve.
I think it has been a very tough year for many people, at least for most of the ones I know! But what I think that this year has thrown to our face is that we need more love. I wrote a full post in my notebook and when I was almost finished, I looked at it and thought: it’s not enough! I need to start all over.
Maybe that’s what I think the new year needs: to start over. We always hope that things are different, we hold on to this hope and most of the time, nothing changes. Today I saw this video which was fantastic and I really recommend you to watch it!
In the video, they were talking about the millennium generation, which I am part of. It made me go back to all I have lived until now and think in all the choices I can still make in life. We are from a generation that looks up for changes, that wants to impact, but at the end we are lost in our own ideals. Is it our fault? Maybe yes, maybe no. In the video, they said we had a bad parenting. I do agree with that, but I do not blame only our parents for that. We were born in a new era with many changes and the elder generations did not know how to deal with them either.
But I believe that the major error in all this is when life throws the world’s situation to our face and we just don’t look at it. I coulnd’t come here and only write about how lucky I am to have had the chance to follow a dream, of how grateful I am for this fantastic experience in a first world country and that everything is just great.
Would that be fair with all 2016 has been? To just say that? Maybe it should be, so we could focus on the good things that happened. But I am so pisces that my paralel world makes me overthink about situations which keep pounding in my head. Just like the video showed us that the best scenario of this generation is that many of us only walk through life, without really living it.
How can that be? How can that be our best scenario, how can that be our perspective of live? It’s just not possible. The world is shouting out loud and showing us that we need to do things different, because this formula they gave us it’s just not working. We need to find out another one, because we won’t hold on to this for long.
So I started reflecting in everything that 2016 meant to me and realized I had to change my speech, I couldn’t come here and only write happy and beautiful things! We are made of both, nobody is super happy or even joyful in all times. Nor without wrinkles like we love to show in our social medias! All of us want to show what we have of best, we show people what we want them to believe we are. But who are we?
Don’t start 2017 wishing that only life should be generous with you. Believe that you also need to be generous to her, living every day as a new one. Look inside you who do you really want to be, what life you want to have; that you want your children to have. Maybe you will notice that you have not been a good neighbor or a good son. Maybe you will realize that tomorrow can be late to say what you have been holding on you, just because of pride. Maybe you will find a person which you do not recognize anymore and didn’t believe to be, because you have turned to what you wanted people to believe in. It’s quite confusing, but we have reached a moment where we just need to live.
Because the same generation that has lived with a parenting error is now raising their own children. So I hope that life will permit us to not make the same mistakes they have done with us. Hope of making it better and different. Let’s teach them that there is a world out there that is screaming for help and can’t afford more of this weeping. A world that needs better kids than us to keep the hope tight.
Sometimes I have some conflicts thought with myself. This blog thing, to write for many people, some that I have never met, show parts of me that I have maybe not even ever exposed. Share my life with so many of you, sharing more reflecting posts like this one and more simple or banal ones. Turn up to a social media ‘addicted’ just like they said in the video. But them I come back to myself and see that maybe this the opportunity life is giving me to learn to have the balance in between virtual and real life. Because like all of you, I also like to show the happy moments, I want to share love and in some way feel useful too. I don’t want to come here whining or complaining!
Therefore, I am very grateful for all the opportunities life has given me, for the great experience I am living, for been healthy, for having a great person walking by my side everyday. I am also grateful for all the trouble I have been threw, for all the tears I’ve dropped, the smiles I’ve shared, the apologies I have given and the I love you’s I’ve said.
Grateful to be able to confess that I am one of theses millennium generation people that is lost and that hopes that life is generous with me. But also for been conscious that I need to do my part to find my way in life. Because at the end, it doesn’t matter in which generation we were born. We all have the free will to change what was imposed to us and it will never be late to at least try!
I wish that in 2017 you find the answers to what you are looking for, the peace that your heart asks for, the person that you wish to be your other half, the health that might got a bit weak, the success you have been working for. Especially, I wish you find more love in everything that crosses your life.
May it be a year of light and may this light never disappear!
Lili is half Peruvian, half Brazilian, a dreamer Pisces kind of girl, curious, life lover and travel addicted! She`s been to 53 countries, loves to explore different cultures and to travel to the most unusual destinations. Currently lives in Finland, is a monthly columnist for the website Brasileiras pelo Mundo (a Brazilian platform of expat women) and founder of Hey, I am Lili. She believes that the most important things in life are to laugh out loud, a good wine and people she loves always around anywhere in this world!